Monday, October 17, 2011

Dialogue with My Dog


Thoughts on Leadership

in a complex world

 by Tim Jaasko-Fisher, JD, MA

 The following are excerpts from conversations with my dog (Koa the Wonder Dog) in late 2011.

TJF:  Koa!

KWD:  Uh oh…

TJF:  Koa, I can’t believe you got into the trash again!

KWD:  Sorry…sorry…sorry!  Please, don’t make me go to a meeting, please!

TJF:  Meeting?  What are you talking about?

KWD:  Well, I know you’re really mad because this is the third time this week I got into the trash, so I thought you might punish me by making me go to a meeting.

TJF:  What?  First off, I never “punish” you – I just clean up after you, and second, what do meetings have to do with anything?

KWD:  Humans talk about meetings.  They sound terrible.  Some say they are boring, but some say they’re “painful”.  One person even said she’d rather die than go to another meeting! 

TJF:  Well, that might be a bit of an exaggeration, but it is true that many people are frustrated with meetings.  Many times, they are unproductive and can feel like a waste of time.     

KWD:  Why do people bother to have meetings?

TJF:  They can be really useful.  They can help a group plan and move forward on critical issues. 

KWD: How do you separate out the good meetings from the bad?

TJF:  Your question about why people have meetings is a great place to start.  Everyone calling a meeting should be able to clearly state their intention for calling the meeting.  Many times the “painful” meetings happen when no one is clear why they are there or how to participate.

KWD:  You mean people just get in a room and wander around together then leave?

TJF:  Well, kind of – if not physically, certainly mentally.

KWD:  Humans are funny animals.  I can understand if there was food involved, but the rest…

TJF:  Basically, there are three types of meetings- meetings to give information, meetings to get information, and meetings to decide a course of action.  By clarifying what kind of meeting (or agenda item) you are dealing with, you can help people effectively participate.

KWD:  I don’t get it.

TJF:  For example, if you are holding a meeting to give information, then it is clear to participants that you just want them there to take in new information.  Participants might ask clarifying questions, but the intention of the meeting is not to generate new courses of action or to decide whether you are going to do something.  The meeting is to give information.  By contrast, if you have a meeting or agenda item in which you want to get information, you are inviting people to generate ideas and to provide information.  Finally, it is good to clarify if you are asking people to make a decision and if so, what are you asking them to decide.  Sharing the intent of the meeting with people before the meeting lets them come prepared to participate.

KWD:  So if a decision has already been made, you should let people know up front but if you want new ideas or you want them to decide something let them know that up front too?

TJF:  Yes.  Getting clear on what kind of meeting you are having and why, make it easier to decide who should be at the meeting or whether you should even have one.  Many meetings to give information may be better handled just sending out a memo then giving an opportunity for questions.  If you intend to gather information, do you have everyone in the room you need to see the issue fully?  If you are deciding something, are all the necessary decision makers invited?

KWD:  So basically, if you decide what kind of meeting you are having and what it is about, meetings will be better because people will know how to participate and they will be more likely to get invited to the right kinds of meetings where stuff actually gets done?

TJF:  Exactly.  Now about that garbage…

KWD:  If that’s upsetting to you, I wouldn’t recommend going upstairs.



This blog post was adapted from ideas in:

Swartz, D. H. (2001). Designing and leading participative meetings workbook: A comprehensive

learning resource notebook on how to design participative meetings and then conduct

them in ways that motivate people to contribute because they feel heard. Seattle, WA:

Effectiveness Resource Group, Inc.